There are all kinds of toys available in the market that cater to various erogenous zones and sensations! A sex toy geek may know the use, purpose, and function of most of them, but most people fail to take full advantage of the sex toy market, either because they are not aware of the variety, or because they are hesitant to try them out. We wouldn’t want anyone to miss out on a whole different pleasure-filled experience due to any reason! So here we are, telling you about the best sex toys and how to use them for maximum pleasure! Today’s pick is the age-old patriarchal device used to restrain women, but reinvented with a fun twist to play with pleasure – A Chastity Cage for Men!
What is a Chastity Cage?
If you are wondering what a chastity cage for men is, and how it works, this section will answer all your questions. Chastity cages are cages used to regulate, control, and lock the genitals – namely the penis! While most sex toys for men focus on masturbation and stimulation, this one operates on the idea of denying that stimulation to the penis. Also known as ‘cock cages’ or ‘penis cages’, these are made from plastic or stainless steel, both have their pros and cons. Read – Steel Chastity Cages vs Plastic Chastity Cages, to help you make the right choice. According to a sex blogger Cara Sutra, penis owners enjoy having their genitals locked up the most, which explains why chastity devices in India are one of the more popular sex toys for men! While women and non-binary folk may not have the same kind of attachment to their genitals as cisgender men, wearing chastity cages can spice things up for them and open new gates to pleasure and erotic ways to play. They are great sex toys for couples who want BDSM play, especially the kind that’s below the belt.
Chastity Cages and BDSM
Whether you are into bondage and restraint, are looking for sadistic satisfaction, want to explore the dominant submissive dynamics, or simply are craving something adventurous, chastity holds the key! The playful element of the BDSM chastity cage is created through a blend of fear, worry, excitement, and taboo, making your experience all the more exciting.
BDSM includes 3 categories – bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. It may be misunderstood as being restrictive, but BDSM can be a fun and freeing experience, regardless of your role. Here’s how a chastity cage can be used to explore the categories of BDSM. The cage acts as a constant reminder to the wearer that their penis and pleasure are controlled by their partner, and can be used on the submissive by the dominant to engage in power play. The cage also acts as a tool of restraint since the wearer may not be able to get an erection, and can not masturbate or have an orgasm. The restraint and denial of orgasm and pleasure, and the thrill of not being able to masturbate or reach orgasm contribute to the element of sadism and masochism.
(Read: Chastity Devices in India- 5 things you need to know)
What is Orgasm Denial and How is it Pleasurable?
As the name suggests, Orgasm Denial is when an individual is denied orgasm by their partner, dominant, or themselves. It involves maintaining high states of arousal without allowing orgasm to occur. Orgasm denial can be practiced either through self-control and willpower, or using restraints, BDSM products, or devices such as the chastity cage. While it may sound unpleasant and dull, however, we urge you to try it out to fully understand the potential that orgasm denial holds!
Engaging in Orgasm Denial can deepen the erotic bond between partners and take the level of trust and control a notch higher. This control can be a huge turn-on, just knowing that you are the master of the other person’s body and pleasure or that the other person has so much control of your body and pleasure can be very arousing. As we say with blindfolds, if you block one of your senses, it heightens your other senses, the works with orgasm denial as well. Denying the most pleasurable event or experience, an orgasm, shifts the focus to other erogenous zones, which in turn become more sensitive to stimulation and experience heightened pleasure. Moreover, some people find that delaying and denying their orgasms leads to more powerful, and longer orgasms on a physical as well as psychological level!
Safety and Hygiene
Now that you know all about chastity cages, BDSM, and orgasm denial you must be eager to try it out. However, we must stall for a little longer. It’s important to ensure safety when using chastity cages or practicing BDSM. here are a few things you need to check and keep in mind before you get locked in, or lock someone up!
- Consent and communication are the pillars of any sexual activity. It is important to ask your partner if they are comfortable being locked in and understand what their boundaries are while communicating your boundaries and preferences as well. We are all for ongoing consent, and you should be too! Read Ongoing Consent and Why It Doesn’t Ruin the Mood.
- Safe words must be mutually decided beforehand, and a spare key must be provided to the submissive to ensure that the submissive can get out of the cage whenever it gets overwhelming, painful, or too uncomfortable.
- Since the cage will be worn around the penis, and probably for quite a while, it should not get too painful or uncomfortable for the wearer. Take proper measurements and go for the right choice when buying chastity cages online.
- Moreover, aim for body-safe and easy-to-clean materials to avoid allergic reactions, infections, chaffing, rashes, or injury. The best bet would be to opt for medical-grade stainless steel, titanium, or 100% medical-grade silicone.
- If you will be wearing the chastity cage for a long period of time, you will have to maintain proper hygiene. We suggest washing your penis and the cage, while it is on, with warm soapy water daily. You can use a q-tip to reach places that are hard to wash. With the help of your partner/dominant, you may have a weekly cleanse where you can take off the cage to thoroughly clean your penis and the cage.
- Trimming your pubic will prevent any tugging and pulling, and can help keep the area well-ventilated.
- Also, don’t forget to clean the area well every time you take a leak!
How to Explore BDSM Using Chastity Cages
Once you check all the boxes for safety and hygiene, you are all set to explore BDSM using Chastity cages and add an element of fun and excitement to your sex lives! Here are a few ways to get the sparks flying:
- Be a Tease
Once your partner is locked in, watch them get crazier for you as you tease and seduce them. We suggest a lot of foreplay maintain arousal levels and peak pleasure. The teasing doesn’t have to be one way, the locked-in partner too can arouse the other partner to the point where they are eager to be penetrated by the penis owner! You could also use a BDSM kit to amplify the experience. This could make both parties go wild with desire and a little bit of sexual frustration, which in turn, intensifies pleasure!
- Long Distance Pleasure
We agree long distances can be hard, especially on the sexual front. Using a chastity cage is one way to exert control over your partner’s body and pleasure even when you are nowhere close to them. It’s also best to use when you are going away for a few days or weeks, and your partner can only reach orgasm once you are back! (P.S. Don’t forget to give them a spare key for emergencies)
- Scavenger Hunt/ Hide and Seek
You may have guessed the game already, but we’ll still spell it out for you. Once you lock your partner up, you hide the key and make clues that lead up to it. Your partner remains locked till they are able to find the key, after which you can reward them with a mind-blowing sex-sesh!
- Power Play – Dom & Sub
Powerplay is an extension of the Dom & Sub relationship, and what better way to exert power, than to control the body and pleasure of the sub? By locking the submissive, the dominant takes ownership of the sub’s penis, in other words, it’s like saying – ‘your dick belongs to me, and I’m locking it up, and ‘ you only orgasm when I want youtube orgasm’!
- To-Do List
This is a great way to get work done by your partner, whether is house chores or a body massage, make a list of things you want your partner to do and they remain locked in till all the tasks on the list are completed! You can also make it sexy by making a list of foreplay activities such as going down on you, sucking your nipples, or kissing your neck!
We won’t hold you back any longer! You are all set to explore BDSM using chastity cages, and if you don’t already have one and need help choosing, here’s How to Pick the Best Chastity Cage for Your Penis! Browse through the best collection of body-safe and tested chastity cages online. Revel in the orgasmic experience you’re about to have!
