The Elusive G-spot: Does it exist or not?

The most common thing you’ve heard about the g spot is that finding it is as elusive as a magical unicorn. There is widespread controversy that the g spot doesn’t really exist and some researchers assert that vaginal orgasms in vulva owners isn’t really possible. In 2017, when a bunch of researchers tried to locate the G spot in a study, they were unsuccessful. So, is the g spot a myth or have we just been going about looking for it the wrong way? Let’s find out! First things first:

What is the g spot?

The Gräfenberg spot was first discovered by Dr. Beverly Whipple who found that using a “come hither” motion on the inside of the vaginal walls leads to an immense physical sensation in vulva owners. She hypothesized that this spot is the key to achieving vaginal orgasms during intercourse.

Why is the G spot so hard to find?

After this discovery, many researchers have tried to look for the g spot unsuccessfully, causing the controversy around its existence. According to a study, researchers tried to pinpoint the location of the g spot on the vaginal anatomy and concluded that a structure resembling a g spot did not exist. This is one of the main reasons people argue that the g spot doesn’t exist. Another common theory is that the myth of the g spot is a product of the patriarchal society’s obsession with penis in vagina sex as it involves penetration.

However many vulva owners who engage in g spot stimulation claim that it is pleasurable to them. According to a recent 2014 study, the g spot isn’t a separate specific spot in the vagina as many people believe, but it’s a part of the clitoral network! The clitoris that you’re familiar with that looks like a pea sized structure on your vulva is actually a much larger structure that extends internally, divided into two different roots four inches in length.

 A large part of why people don’t find the g spot easily is because they’re looking for a specific spot, when the g spot is a much larger area! When you stimulate the area, you’re essentially stimulating the clitoris internally. Adding to the complexity is the fact this area can vary from person to person. Some vulva owners may find it pleasurable while some may not. Research has found however, that stimulation of the area can lead to female ejaculation which is the clear whitish fluid that is released from a vagina after an orgasm. The amount of this fluid varies from person to person. The amount can be anything from a few drops to half a cup. 

How to find the g spot?

Want to give looking for the g spot a go? It can be a daunting task and you’re gonna be wishing you had a map to it by the end of it. But with a few guidelines and a clearer vision of what you’re looking for, it’s not impossible! 

By yourself: 

• The g spot is easier to find when you’re really turned on. So don’t skip the foreplay. 
• The G spot is part of your clitoral network and this region varies from person to person so it may take a little trial and error to find it. 
• You can use your finger to explore the upper inner wall of the vagina and make a “come hither” gesture. 
• You can use a sex toy in the place of your finger. There are several toys that are designed specifically for G spot stimulation. Make sure to clean sex toyproperly after use, especially if you share them with a partner to avoid the risk of STIs. 
• Remember, the goal is to find what feels the most pleasurable to you and not to look for a switch or button of sorts. 
• Once you find an area that feels ultra sensitive and pleasurable keep the stimulation going and you should feel a momentum building. 
• Keep going until you orgasm. Some people orgasm through g spot stimulation alone, sone may need added stimulation. Don’t hesitate from adding clitoral or erogenous stimulation to the mix. 

Which sex positions are good for g spot stimulation?

Although, manual stimulation is the easiest way to explore the g spot. You can try to stimulate it during sexual intercourse with a partner as well. Let’s take a look at which sex positions best help to facilitate this.

Cowgirl:

This involves straddling your partner while they lay on their back. This position is popular as it provides the person on top with the control and freedom to access angles, motions and rhythms that feel the most pleasurable to them. You can focus on stimulating your upper vaginal wall by a rubbing or back and forth motion instead of a bouncing one. 

Doggy style:

This is another position that can be great for very specific angled penetration and stimulation. However in this one, normally the control lies with the penetrating partner. ongoing communication is super important here. Instruct your partner on which area feels the most pleasurable to you. 

You can also modify other sex positions in a way that works for you and your partner. Remember, the g spot isn’t pleasurable for everyone and it’s completely normal for many vulva owners to not find it in their lifetime. In fact a majority of vulva owners do not orgasm from penetration alone.