Role-play, penetration, and pegging – do these words excite you? If you are looking to spice up your sex lives, looking for something new to experiment with in bed, are planning to go on another sexual adventure, or simply want to experience what it feels like to be the penis owner (without having a penis) – strap on dildos are made just for you! You don’t know a thing about them? Don’t worry, we’ve got your back!
What is a Strap On Dildo?
A strap-on dildo is a versatile sex toy that blurs gender boundaries to make sex and pleasure an inclusive and accessible experience for every person, regardless of their sex or gender! Sounds like a great sex toy already, doesn’t it? Let us get into its utility – a strap on dildo is a wearable dildo (penis-shaped toy) that is attached to a harness or a plug which is then worn by the individual, usually a vulva owner. A strap-on dildo has multiple uses – it can be worn all day from a gender perspective, while roleplaying, for penetrative sex, oral sex, or stimulation.
The strap-on dildo allows two vulva owners to stimulate the cervix and g-spot in the vaginal canal or engage in oral and anal penetration. They can also be used by vulva owners to stimulate the prostate glands in penis owners and are used for pegging. Couples who are into roleplay must include this to shake things up a bit and add a fun, adventurous twist to your daily sex lives!
How to Use A Strap-On Dildo?
- Hygiene and Safety
Before you use any kind of sex toy, or even before you have sex with a partner, it’s important to ensure that the toy and the genitals are clean, to avoid any sort of infection.
(Read: A Guide to Intimate Care and Hygiene) Cleaning your toy thoroughly washes away any growing bacteria on the surface of the toy. Moreover, if you use the dildo with multiple partners, switch up between who wears the strap and who penetrates, or switch between the anus and vagina, it’s best to put a condom on the dildo. Not only will that help ease the cleaning process but it will also help avoid STIs and other infections. As the rule goes – change condoms every time you change the hole, we suggest you stock up on condoms if you are planning on penetrating both the anus and vagina or switching between partners.
- Getting used to the Gear
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If you are a beginner and aren’t too familiar with the harness, we suggest you practice wearing the gear beforehand and get used to it. Learning how to put on a harness is equally important since the harness must fit well and snugly to ensure that it doesn’t come off in the middle of the act (who wouldn’t be frustrated to have to stop mid-sex?), but not too tight to make you feel uncomfortable. Furthermore, if you feel unsure about the motions and clueless about how to go about penetrating, you can practice movements and thrusting motions by yourself, or better yet, communicate with your partner and ask them to help you out as you practice with them.
- Communication and Consent
Communication and Consent are two of the pillars of sex! No matter what kind of sexual act you are participating in, it’s always important to communicate with your partner first and only proceed when they give their clear, enthusiastic consent every time you are about to have some action.
We suggest you communicate with your partner and ask them how they feel about being penetrated with a strap on, or about putting a strap on, know their limits and boundaries – are they comfortable with pegging (anal penetration), vaginal penetration, or both together? Also, remember to ask them if they are comfortable and if they like it, throughout the act. Ongoing consent and communication ensure that your partner feels safe and secure, and also all the feedback helps you take your sex game up a notch!
- Start Slow and Be Gentle
If you or your partner/s are fairly new to strap-ons, starting slow with gentle straddling can help you ease into it. Be particularly gentle while anal penetration/pegging to avoid any fissures or tears! While it may be super tempting to try out all the different positions that you have been fantasizing about and couldn’t try without a strap-on, we would suggest you start with the basics and then move up to more complex ones depending on as and when you and your partner feel ready!
- Lots and Lots of Lube!
Lube is one of the best inventions in the sex product market – it literally makes your sex lives and experiences easier and better! Lube is a must, especially when pegging since the anus doesn’t lubricate itself like the vagina, but that doesn’t mean you leave the lube out during vaginal penetration! Lubrication makes penetration easy and avoids friction, micro cuts and tears, and infections.
- Aftercare
Ensuring your partner is okay, and small acts of care will make your partner feel loved and valued, especially after a session of rough sex. Aftercare may include – communicating about the experience, talking about what worked for all parties involved and what didn’t, cuddling, offering them water and snacks, taking a nap, watching a movie, or just spending some time together.
This extra care is not just restricted to your partner/s, it must also be extended to the strap-on dildo which was very much a part of the act! Wash it properly, let it dry and store it in a breathable cloth bag so that it’s clean, safe, and ready to use the next time.
(Read: How To Take Care of Your Sex Toys?)
Things to Keep in Mind When Buying Strap-On Dildos
- The Dildo
Since there are a variety of sex toys available in the market, it is not hard to find a dildo in India. Not only that, but you can also get your hands on all kinds of strap on dildos in India – so choose the best one that suits your needs and preferences. Here is a checklist to help you pick the best dildo online:
- Size and texture match your needs
- It is made of body-safe silicon
- The toy is tested for its safety (Read: A Look into Manzuri’s Sex Toy Testing Process)
- Reliable, trusted, and legal website
- Safe Payments
- Discreet Packaging
Moreover, you might also want to consider various types of dildos available and have a discussion with your partner about it. Do your research well and find out what matches your needs – vibrating dildos, realistic dildos, curved dildos, or dildos of a certain length!
Check out a range of strap ons online at Manzuri for a safe and fun shopping experience!
- Harness
Picking the right harness is crucial to having a comfortable, hands-free experience. We would recommend buying an adjustable harness made from a comfortable material that doesn’t irritate or dig into your skin. Also, check the fit – it should have a snug fit, not too tight, not too loose. Since you will be using the harness along with the dildo, you must also ensure that the harness accommodates your dildo well and buy one accordingly!
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- Budget
Buying a good strap-on and dildo set is an investment that you will be making for plenty of pleasure, loads of orgasms, and a few years to come (as long as you care for your toy well)! So splurge on a strap on this once (because you deserved to be pampered too) and you won’t regret it!
- Ask your Partner
If you have a consistent partner, we highly recommend involving them in this process as well. Since they will be as involved in the act as you, they too have a say in choosing the strap-on dildo! When you go to buy strap ons, taking your partner along is the best option, however, if that’s not possible, you can ask them about their preferences beforehand. If only one of you is going to be penetrated, their preference is especially important with respect to the size, material, quality, or even colour of the dildo.
- Buy a lot of lube to pair it up with
Nothing pairs better with sex and sex toys than lube (only second to protection)! While buying your lube, make sure it is compatible with your strap-on dildos as well as your condoms (if you are using any, we suggest you do). If you are confused about how to pick the right lube, this will surely help – Read: Lube It Up: All you need to know about lube.
We believe you are all set to dive into the pool of pleasure awaiting you! Before you dive right in, don’t forget to take lube and protection along! If you still haven’t got your hands on a strap on, now is a great time to buy one!
