What is pegging?
You’ve probably heard about it before. Pegging was originally coined for the sexual act when a cisgender woman wears a strap-on to penetrate her partner who is a cis male. Thankfully, today it has evolved to be more inclusive to refer to the activity that involves a strap-on and anal sex regardless of the gender of the partner doing it.
Why do people do it?
Apart from all the mind-blowing pleasure possibilities, it opens up? If the receiver is a penis owner, it can stimulate the p-spot.
Also called the “male g spot”, the p stands for “prostate”. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just below the bladder of penis owners.
It can help achieve a prostate orgasm, which is usually more intense and full-bodied than other orgasms. The prostate’s main function however is to aid in reproduction by generating seminal fluid.
Pegging can also be a great way to get intimate with your partner, try role reversals in the bedroom, and incorporate it into BDSM play.
Pegging isn’t only pleasurable for the receivers though. It can also be pleasurable for the giver.
During the act, the base of the dildo pressing up against the pubic mound or clitoris can be very pleasing, similar to the experience of dry humping.
Most men who have engaged in pegging talk about experiencing orgasms like never before.
And multiple Os isn’t the only thing you get out of pegging! According to this research, men who have tried pegging are reportedly more in tune with the sexual needs of their partners. They can also reportedly please their partner much better!
What do you need for pegging?
You can either purchase a dildo online and a harness separately, or you can buy a strap-on, which is a set that includes both. If you’re trying pegging for the first time we suggest starting small when it comes to the dildo. To get the best prostate orgasm, pick a dildo with a slightly curved head that’s specifically designed for p-spot stimulation. You can buy vibrating dildos for more fun!
Don’t forget the Lube! For any type of anal play, you can never have too much lube. When choosing a lubricant, consider the material of your dildo. If it’s a silicone dildo, use a water-based lubricant. If you’re not using a silicone dildo, a silicone- or oil-based lube usually lasts longer because of its thicker consistency.
How to get pegging with a dildo strap on right?
Step 1: Start small:
Most anuses need to be eased into being penetrated. Start with a well-lubed fingering. You can even try incorporating the various types of anal sex toys available like butt plugs or anal beads.
#ManzuriTip: we recommend spending some time flying solo and exploring your likes and dislikes before jumping into the partnered play. It’ll help you communicate your needs and boundaries better!
Step 2: Prepping:
If it’s your first time engaging in anal play, you’re probably worried about poop making an appearance and ruining the party. Shit happens sometimes, in sex and otherwise and it’s perfectly natural. However, it’s not as common of an occurrence as you may think. You don’t necessarily need to use an anal douche or enema to enjoy safe anal sex. But if using one will make you feel more comfortable so you can relax and focus on your pleasure, then go for it and have fun!
Step 3: Wrap it up:
Don’t pass on the condoms just because there isn’t a real penis involved. Even if pregnancy isn’t a risk, STI transmissions may be. Use a condom over the dildo. Change the condoms if you plan to switch who’s being penetrated. Using the same condom for the anus and the vagina can cause cross-contamination and lead to nasty UTIs.
Step 4: Let’s talk about (anal) sex baby:
Communication is always important. But when you’re trying something new that can be as intimate as the act of pegging, communication is a non-negotiable part. Talking about the entire act in detail can help ease any worries cropping up. You can figure out safe words and talk about your boundaries. It’s a good idea to keep checking in and communicating during sex as well.
Step 5: Trust:
The nature of pegging and the discourse and stigma that surrounds it makes it a super vulnerable and intimate act. This means that the feeling of trust, safety, and security between you and your partner is a must.
Step 6: Lubricate, Lubricate, Lubricate:
The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like a vagina so you gotta take matters into your own hands if you catch our drift. Silicone-based lubes aren’t compatible with silicone toys, which is what most dildos are made of. If you’re using a latex condom with the dildo then oil-based lubes can damage them. Water-based lubes are your best bet.
Step 7: Fit the harness dildo strap on properly:
The pegger should have enough control over the harness strap-on for movement to be effortless. Ensure that the harness is fitted tightly to their body while still being comfortable. This ensures that the harness doesn’t slip during thrusting. Adjustable strap-ons a
Pegging myths you need to stop believing
Although pegging has seen a rise in popularity in pop culture due to shows like Broad City and movies like Deadpool, it still remains taboo. Here at Manzuri, we love busting myths!
“Pegging is only for gay men”
A part of the stigma around pegging stems from the homophobic and patriarchal notion that anal penetration is something that only queer men enjoy. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Anal sex has nothing to do with sexuality. There can be just as many queer men who don’t enjoy anal sex as queer men who do.
“Pegging is unclean”
Anal pleasure for straight men has always been a taboo, partly due to this misguided, patriarchal idea of emasculation that leads people to believe it’s unmanly to enjoy anal sex and partly because people believe it to be “unclean” as butts are associated with poop.
But this couldn’t be further from the truth. The rectum is designed to store poop in the upper bowels way away from the anus until it’s time to have a bowel movement. A simple shower is all your anus needs to be ready.
“Being pegged makes you submissive”
Another reason for the stigma around pegging is that it is associated with BDSM and especially femdom. Pegging is sometimes wrongly portrayed in mainstream porn as a violent and destructive activity instead of a consensual, intimate act of pleasure.
Sure, pegging can be incorporated into BDSM and power play and men playing the role of a submissive shouldn’t necessarily have any implications on their masculinity. However, pegging isn’t inherently about relinquishing control to the giver. Being pegged does not automatically make you submissive. You can still choose to be the dominating partner while being pegged.
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